I am woman.. hear me…


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You.Are.Amazing.

As. you. are.
Stronger than you know.
More beautiful than you think.
Worthier than you believe.
More loved than you can ever imagine.
Passionate about making a difference.
Fiery when protecting those you love.
Learning. Growing. Not alone.
Warm. Giving. Generous.
Quirky. Sexy. Funny. Smart.
Flawed. Whole. Scared. Brave.
And so, so, so.much.more.

Be Strong. Be Confident. Be You. ~ Copyright: Tia Sparkles Singh, 2011

I have been living and working in Lagos, Nigeria now for 18 months.  One of my favorite things about this country is how vibrant and strong the people are.  Specifically the women.  Talk about inspiring folks.  Every day there is a new surprise that faces me down.  In celebration of International Women’s Day 2017, my friend and I visited the Nike Centre for Art and Culture.

Every time I visit this gallery I find about 200 pieces I would love to buy.  The work covers everything from photography, to bead work, statutes of wood and metal, oils, fabrics, and really just everything you can imagine.  Well, this installation was possibly my favorite as it covered all of the artistic genres mentioned with a focus on the strong women who create the work.

What I love even more is the owner of the gallery.  Nike Davies-Okundaye – Nike Davies-Okundaye a.k.a. “‘Nike Davies'” a.k.a. “‘Nike Twin Seven Seven'” a.k.a. “‘Nike Olaniyi'” a.k.a. “‘Mummy Nike'”  – Wikipedia

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Talk about a strong woman.  I. LOVE. HER.  She is Nigerian.  She is strong. She is intelligent. She is kind.  She is an art piece all by herself.  What an amazing person.  So generous with her time and her ability to explain every piece of art in her gallery.  If you make it to Lagos, Nigeria and do not stop in to her gallery, you are missing a treat!!

The art presented that was specifically on display for Women’s Day was spectacular.  Created by women about women.  I did not take enough photos to really give it due respect.

My favorite pieces were so amazing!! They were huge though.  If I only had a place big enough to house them.

All of the other work was equally impressive and to be fair, there were many more “favorites”.  Even the work not specifically on display for Women’s Day, had a flair that I could not stop going back to.

For more Nigerian artwork that focuses on the Nigerian woman’s perspective, this book would be an excellent choice to get started.  I hope you enjoyed the tour!

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Travel theme: Woman

Other woman links:

Woman! Women of Cuba A daily stroll through Bucharest ; Roaming Urban Gypsy2017/03/12/athlete/Woman | Ladyleemanila;

Even more exquisite


After a over a year in Nigeria, I was finally invited to a colleagues wedding.  I have heard the hype about the color, the fun, the dancing, the noise, the chaos and I have to say… it totally lived up to every rumor.  It was an amazing, loud, chaotic, and colorful event.

It has so far, been the highlight of my time in Nigeria. Let’s start with a few facts I mostly discovered at the time of the event.

First off, it’s not mandatory, but apparently it is very common for the bride’s family and friends to wear the same color of fabric as the bride and the same goes for the groom. They do this to identify who belongs to who.  In my office, we were offered an opportunity to buy the bride’s colors as she was our colleague.  So about 25 of us from the office dressed in the brides colors.   Despite the fabric color, the designs were all so beautiful and completely and uniquely different from each other and made to fit our own style and body..

Raining money.  This is not something that only happens in Nigeria for sure.  The money dance crosses cultures.  However, in Nigeria it seems that money rained down at many random points during the wedding ceremony.  The DJ bid out his services, children brought forth money, the couple danced down a row of guests and ended with family members tossing money at them while they danced and money just seemed to be collected throughout the event.  People usually rained down small amounts each time but it was a fun way to show your love!!

A few changes of the bride’s clothes

Pretty much anyone can wander into or out of one wedding directly into another.  I know this because I accidentally did it.  There were at least two weddings going on in the same area.  No one blinked an eye when I walked in, walked halfway through the hall, realized I was in the wrong place and walked back out.  It’s no wonder due to the constant commotion and chaos going on in every directions, dancing, drinking, eating, and talking.  Walking in and out of buildings and different rooms.  Changes of clothes and random musicians passing through.  Then there is the paparazzi – don’t ever tell me you don’t have any photos after attending a Nigerian wedding.  There are even professional photographers hanging out in the parking lot that will later sell you a photo of yourself…and yes I bought one.

Head gear and professional make up.  Not only are Nigerians dressed to a T, they have their heads professional wrapped and their make up professionally applied.  It can take hours just to put everyone’s make-up and headgear on.  It is not taken lightly.

Food and music and chaos.  All of it, ever kind of it and don’t forget the dancing.  I was so honored to be invited to this event and it is one of the things that I have been able to experience in Nigeria that I will NEVER forget.  I hope that I am able to attend one more wedding before I leave.  It was such an exhilarating experience and made me feel very close to the people I work with.

Lastly, I survived…I was even asked what part of Nigeria I was from.  More than one time.  Who would have thought..

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A woman who has not been twice married cannot know what a perfect marriage is. – Nigeria

Special posts that seem to align:

Some life, Banquet, Hey you, that night, Someday,  Invitation, socks and gloves, la petite, the affair,

 

Smiles


A new challenge by Sally this month was to choose our own theme.  I chose smiles because that is my favorite thing to do and to see.  In every country that I have been blessed enough to visit I have found favorite smiles.  I sort of collect them.  When I feel down or angry, I can look back on some of my favorite smiles.  If you look past through my posts, you can see all of my favorite smiles so far.  Smiles from family.  Smiles from old friends.  Smiles from new friends.  I have found people who just look angry and annoyed and yet when I smile at them, they almost always smile back.  Sure there are those that do not.  But in my experience, for the most part they usually do.  I hope you enjoy my most recent collection of smiles from Egypt.

Let my soul smile through my heart and my heart smile through my eyes, that I may scatter rich smiles in sad hearts. Paramahansa Yogananda

 

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From my last post. One of my favorite most recent smiles. My driver to the airport who got a call during the ride letting him know that his wife just had a baby boy. They had been waiting 5 years for this news.

Let us always meet each other with smile, for the smile is the beginning of love. Mother Teresa

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On a visit to the Egyptian Museum, these adorable young kids visiting the museum asked if they could take their picture with me.  I in turn asked if i could take my picture with them.  I LOVE this picture and love that they wanted to take their picture with me.  How fun is this.

Did I offer peace today? Did I bring a smile to someone’s face? Did I say words of healing? Did I let go of my anger and resentment? Did I forgive? Did I love? These are the real questions. I must trust that the little bit of love that I sow now will bear many fruits, here in this world and the life to come. Henri Nouwen

A person is just a person.  A job is just a job.  We do not know why someone looks angry (Resting bitch face?  Maybe?) or sad (Really actually sad and alone?).  We will never know why unless we engage.  Maybe you will get a positive response or possibly just an angry grunt.  You will never know unless you engage.  Every single sad or angry looking face I encountered above eventually smiled.  Maybe I just wore them down, I don’t know.  But engagement brought life to the face.  To theirs and mine as well.

A smile is happiness you’ll find right under your nose. Tom Wilson

The tour we went on introduced me to a bunch of new smiles that still make me happy to look back on and remember.  What a great trip. Still smiling from the fun.

View other entries for this week’s challenge :

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Getting to the fashion …


Life’s too short to wear boring clothes – Carly Cushnie and Michelle Ochs

Life IS too short to wear boring clothes, but sometimes it takes a little more effort to get what you want.  It is one of my favorite parts of being in Nigeria.  From a traditional Nigerian look to rocking the 70s, the 80s, the 90s and even the current New York Fashion trends of today.  It all starts here.. or at least in places like this.  Come take a walk with me.. if you can get through the alleys, the trucks, the food stalls, and the other vendors.

Just  because you work in the fashion industry, it doesn’t mean you live your life in fashion. – Phillip Lim

My guess is my tailor is going to get overwhelmed with how much I am enjoying this journey towards fashion.  It has been a great way to meet local people and (I hope) bond with the folks I work with.  The style is energetic, frenetic, bright, vivacious, and at times, it appears that it just don’t give a shit.  Which is something I really like about the style here.  I hope you like the view and looking forward to sharing more.
More posts about being stylish found at the Daily Post

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