Eudaimonia


Eudaimonia (noun) Origin: Greek | A contented state of being happy, healthy, and prosperous.

Sometimes, when you are in the heat of it all.  Stress and fatigue are surrounding you.  People are screaming, judging, commenting with their own opinions on your opinion.

“You should feel beautiful and you should feel safe. What you surround yourself with should bring you peace of mind and peace of spirit.” —Stacy London

You feel like the world is against you.  You feel like there is just nothing left.  It’s a spiral.  It’s a tsunami.  It’s devastation.  It’s death.  It’s destruction.  Sometimes when you feel like you can not take one more thing:

“Do not let the behavior of others destroy your inner peace.” —Dalai Lama

Close your eyes.

“Do your little bit of good where you are; it’s those little bits of good put together that overwhelm the world.” —Desmond Tutu

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Breathe deep.

“Not one of us can rest, be happy, be at home, be at peace with ourselves, until we end hatred and division.” —John Lewis

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Listen.  Listen to your heart.

“When the power of love overcomes the love of power the world will know peace.” —Jimi Hendrix

Feel.  Feel the joy you once felt.. you once felt at even one time in your life.

“Never be in a hurry; do everything quietly and in a calm spirit. Do not lose your inner peace for anything whatsoever, even if your whole world seems upset.” —Saint Francis de Sales

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Remember.  Remember the surprise at the tiny little miracles of every day that some time later became commonplace.

When things change inside you, things change around you.” —Unknown

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Do.  Do something.  Anything. Anything that moves you to the better place.

“It isn’t enough to talk about peace. One must believe in it. And it isn’t enough to believe in it. One must work at it.” —Eleanor Roosevelt

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“If you don’t know the guy on the other side of the world, love him anyway because he’s just like you. He has the same dreams, the same hopes and fears. It’s one world, pal. We’re all neighbors.” —Frank Sinatra

I don’t believe a happy state of mind just happens.  Sometimes it’s a lot of freakn work.  It’s not realistic to expect to be ecstatic every single day.  However, it’s realistic to be happy more than not happy.  If you are not happy more than you are happy, then you need to change your scenery.  Even if it doesn’t feel like it, you control your reality and if you don’t.  Start.  Start doing things that bring you to Eudaimonia.

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“Peace comes from being able to contribute the best that we have, and all that we are, toward creating a world that supports everyone. But it is also securing the space for others to contribute the best that they have and all that they are.” —Hafsat Abiola

Eudaimonia in others:  David; Nourish; Micah; Matt; Eleanor; earthwalking; sophie; chungsoo; dream; the wave; sasi

Trouvaille


Trouvaille (noun) Origin: French | A lucky find.

Perfect bubbles in a perfect sky.  I dreamt one time that I could live in a bubble.  Reflecting everything around me.  Rainbows, shadows, sun, and rain.  Floating in a fathomless world. Bubbles are enchanting and beautiful and so delicate.

Too delicate.

Once I grew up I realized that, for the most part, I was already living in a bubble.  Everyone was living in a bubble. As a matter of fact, most of us spend our entire life in a bubble. We spend our life in our cozy little bubbles, separated from other bubbles.  It’s a choice. Even if it’s a subconscious choice.  Your bubble is your norm.

Too, too delicate.

We get annoyed when our bubble is popped, or disturbed in any way. We label the things in our bubble so they are recognizable to us and our bubble friends.  It’s a comfortable place to live.

But so, so delicate. So, so fragile. So easy to burst.  That was a hard lesson but a necessary one.

My trouvaille was finding my bubble again.  Learning that I could come and go from my bubble and merge with other bubbles and leave again, undamaged. Realizing that no matter how far i strayed from the bubble, I would be able to return to it.  How lucky am I?

I enjoy the beauty of the bubble, they’re fluid and yet they have these geometric shapes so they do surprising things – two spheres become a single sphere – it’s what bubbles do. ~~Tom Noddy

Trouvaille: Ka; UtKarsh; strider; Dhanan; caholmes; Jess; viixiin

Day 26 ~ Who be They


I honestly do not have a whole lot to say today but I have committed to making it to Day 30 in a row.  So close.  Lucky for me I always have a random thought, or a multitude of random thoughts in my head that I often do not share.  Today’s first thought of the day was, “Who be they?” I’m not sure why I woke up with that thought but here it is.

So – to explain it, I would stay that it usually involves blame for your own life not working out as well as you thought it would.  Every time something goes wrong . . . it’s natural to assume that someone else is at fault or just had better luck than you did.

It’s easy to say things like, “If only they would have/would not have…” or “Why are they always trying to …”. “I can’t believe they…” Or what about, “They are so lucky!”

I will not say it’s never their fault, (whose fault?) But seriously, who be THEY?  Who are the magical they folks?  They are so lucky, they are so mean, they always get what they deserve. They always get what they want.  I try not to blame them (who?) but sometimes I can’t help it. Most of the time I don’t want to be anything other than what I’m trying to be lately (I told you I plagiarize but always give credit) But sometimes, I can’t help trying to be like them. (WHO!!! You know, THEM!!)  It never works out.  I do not have it in me to be anything but me.  It just never works out to try to match their style, their tone, their attitude. (I wish I knew who they were.)

If you know you are on the right track, if you have this inner knowledge, then nobody can turn you off… no matter what they say. ~ Barbara McClintock

I woke up this morning to Alicia Keys “Underdog” and just felt happy by the end of the song.  I read she wrote the song to inspire the overlooked and underestimated and I realized that she was talking about the theys.  I mean some of them.. in my opinion the majority of the theys are the underdogs.

I am a they.  I have always been a they and that’s ok.  Here’s to the theys.. to the yous.. to all of the ones who are the underdogs.  Who are the ones who are just trying to be what they are trying to be. Cups up and have a great day!

Alicia Keys “Underdog
Ooh, ooh, ooh
Ooh, ooh, ooh
She was walking in the street, looked up and noticed
He was nameless, he was homeless
She asked him his name and told him what hers was
He gave her a story ’bout a life
With a glint in his eye and a corner of a smile
One conversation, a simple moment
The things that change us if we notice
When we look up, sometimes
They said I would never make it
But I was built to break the mold
The only dream that I’ve been chasing is my own
So I sing a song for the hustlers trading at the bus stop
Single mothers waiting on a check to come
Young teachers, student doctors
Sons on the frontline knowing they don’t get to run
This goes out to the underdog
Keep on keeping at what you love
You’ll find that someday soon enough
You will rise up, rise up,…

Gavin DeGraw  ” I Don’t Want to Be

I don’t need to be anything other
Than a prison guard’s son
I don’t need to be anything other
Than a specialist’s son
I don’t have to be anyone other
Than the birth of two souls in one
Part of where I’m going, is knowing where I’m coming from
I don’t want to be
Anything other than what I’ve been trying to be lately
All I have to do
Is think of me and I have peace of mind
I’m tired of looking ’round rooms
Wondering what I’ve got to do
Or who I’m supposed to be
I don’t want to be anything other than me
I’m surrounded by liars
Everywhere I turn
I’m surrounded by imposters
Everywhere I turn
I’m surrounded by identity crisis
Everywhere I turn
Am I the only one who noticed? I can’t be the only one who’s learned
I don’t want to be
Anything other than what I’ve been trying to be lately
All I have to do
Is think of me and I have peace of mind
I’m tired of looking ’round rooms
Wondering what I’ve got to do
Or who I’m supposed to be
I don’t want to be anything other than me
Can I have everyone’s attention please?
If you’re not like this and that, you’re gonna have to leave
I came from the mountain
The crust of creation
My whole situation-made from clay to stone
And now I’m telling everybody
I don’t want to be
Anything other than what I’ve been trying to be lately
All I have to do
Is think of me and I have peace of mind
I’m tired of looking ’round rooms
Wondering what I’ve got to do
Or who I’m supposed to be
I don’t want to be anything other than me
I don’t want to be
I don’t want to be
I don’t want to be…

“If each day is a gift, I’d like to know where I can return Mondays.” — John Wagner


“Mondays are the start of the work week which offer new beginnings 52 times a year.” — David Dweck

Every Monday I wake up motivated to start on the right foot. Or the left.  It doesn’t really matter.  My goal is simply to remove unnecessary chaos.  I diligently plan, prep skeleton schedules,create alternate plans should unexpected issues arise.  By Friday, I am on it like white on rice.

“I always try to go the extra mile at work, but my boss always finds me and brings me back.”— Unknown

I often come in on the weekend just to ensure success. I don’t mind. I love organization. I love preparations. I mean…I have managed every single situation that has ever been flung on me.  I got this!  EVERY THING EVERY TIME!  I have successfully worked through earthquakes, civil unrest, teenage daughters, and every other form of man-made and natural chaotic event.

But …then … comes … Monday.

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Followed by Tuesday … Wednesday … Thursday … and TGIF.

“There cannot be a stressful crisis next week. My schedule is already full.” ­— Henry Kissinger

Begin again… repeat …. this week will definitely be different.  Sooooooooo…. Every Monday I wake up motivated to start on the right foot. Or the left. It doesn’t really matter. My goal is simply to remove unnecessary chaos. I ….. well you get it….

“Some days, the best thing about the job is that the chair spins.”— Unknown

 

Paths and Adventures – – and – – Slowing it Down.


“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.”  -Mark Twain

 

The shape of a path in no way determines the adventure.

There is very little I fear more than thinking about staying in one place 444444 evahhhhhhhh!!!  I have been moving around nearly all of my life.  First through my imagination. On through books, movies, art, and music.  Followed by the actual physical act of moving around through the military, teaching, and now my current job.

 “Every man’s life ends the same way. It is only the details of how he lived and how he died that distinguish one man from another.”    -Ernest Hemingway

Moving, moving, moving.

 “Oh, the places you’ll go.”    -Dr. Seuss

The paths I have followed and the decisions I have made have provided me more adventures than I can ever recount.  So many paths and so many emotions with each of those paths.

“To travel is to discover that everyone is wrong about other countries.”  -Aldous Huxley

I have learned so much from the places I have been.  Maybe the biggest thing is that we are all the same.  Even in our greatest differences, we are the same.  We have kids, we have homes, we have happiness and sadness, we have a life and we long for more.  Each of us longs for more.  More safety, more money, more happiness, more education, more life.  More of everything.. … …

“Life is either a daring adventure or nothing.”   -Helen Keller

“For my part, I travel not to go anywhere but to go. I travel for travel’s sake. The great affair is to move.”  -Robert Louis Stevenson

As I think back on it all, it’s hard to believe how many places I have traveled to.  what I have seen and heard and tasted and drank and experienced.

Great experiences all of them.  But as I look back in wonder and happiness, I also feel a bit of a black hole.  Through all of my travels, even when surrounded by many, I was often alone .. felt alone .. sometimes disconnected .. sometimes and only sometimes .. a little sad.  More happy than sad… but sometimes still sad.

I love coming back home and seeing old friends and family. I would say it keeps me grounded.   ~~Coy Bowles

Because of that, I am now oddly considering slowing down.  Considering remaining in one place with only normal, average (never really average with me) vacations that might take me mere miles from my home.  Maybe further, but finding a home base that I will exist in and travel to and from.  The same place always returning to.. the same place..

The ache for home lives in all of us, the safe place where we can go as we are and not be questioned.  ~~ Maya Angelou 

Part of me feels a stirring of panic at that thought.  The mere notion of not packing up my life every 2-4 years and starting over seems unnatural.  Makes me feel tense and uncomfortable. However, there are reasons to really start thinking about the possibilities of finding a home base.

These two pictures reflects only five years of separation.  Only five years but a life time of growth.  What am I missing by being so far away all of the time.  I do not regret my travels or my time away.  I just know that for every path and adventure, there are other paths that provide other adventures.  I have traveled the world as well as my home country and I am ready to rebuild and bond with the paths I have left behind.  Include people into my paths that I miss profoundly.  However, that path will have its own challenges, fears, and limitations.  The limitations are where my fears are the strongest.

The key to growth is acknowledging your fear of the unknown and jumping in anyway. ~~Jen Sincero

I have to remind myself though that the limitations that I am afraid of are really only limits in my own mind.  The past paths have led me to amazing places and introduced me to amazing people.  They will not disappear if I stay in one place.  As a matter of fact, I may find that by staying in one place I will be able to connect deeper to the people and places I am constantly leaving behind.

“You’ll never find peace of mind until you listen to your heart.” —George Michael

Sometimes my heart tells me to stay put and other times my heart says to keep moving.  But my heart of hearts tells me that being around the people that I love and that make me smile and smile with me and laugh at my silly jokes.. is where I need to be…

My personal goals are to be happy, healthy and to be surrounded by loved ones. ~~Kiana Tom

To laugh.. to laugh at.. to be laughed at.. to laugh with..

It was the way you laughed… I knew I wanted that in my life. ~~ R.M. Drake

Yeah.  I do want to slow down, reconnect, connect deeper.  I still have a few years.. but I think that my heart of hearts is giving me some good signs..  love these people and places and so many more…and I think I can combine some new paths, news adventures, new people, new laughs….. AND slowing it down.

 

We are all here for a spell. Get all the good laughs you can. — Will Rogers

The point is seeing that THIS — the immediate, everyday and present experience — is IT, the entire and ultimate point for the existence of a universe. I believe that if this state of consciousness could become more universal, the pretentious nonsense which passes for the serious business of the world would dissolve in laughter… — Alan Watts

Laughter connects you with people. It’s almost impossible to maintain any kind of distance or any sense of social hierarchy when you’re just howling with laughter. Laughter is a force for democracy. — John Cleese

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