• (Verb) The formal slang of letting someone go professionally and with a pension.

They said I was too young.  They said I would get bored.  They said I would not have enough money to live comfortably.  To them I say,  I think not!

Random Misadventures of a not yet retired grammy.

Still working.. though it sure didn’t feel like it today!


Serendipity 2

Serendipity (noun) Origin: English | ser·en·dip·i·ty  Finding something good without looking for it.

Just this morning, walking in my new ‘hood I came across an art festival. Very serendipitous. A lot of amazing finds! To think i was only out for a cuppa joe!  Interesting art, good conversations all started by the serendipitous choices I have recently made.  Never made it to coffee, but found some great jewelry, art, furniture, and had some random conversations ranging from artistic stylings and color choices to Memorial Day meanings and the sacrifices people have made throughout history in a variety of different ways.  I love unexpected surprises!

“It’s a bizarre but wonderful feeling, to arrive dead center of a target you didn’t even know you were aiming for.”   ― Lois McMaster Bujold

“You be you and I’ll be me, today and today and today, and let’s trust the future to tomorrow. Let the stars keep track of us. Let us ride our own orbits and trust that they will meet. May our reunion be not a finding but a sweet collision of destinies!”
Jerry Spinelli, Love, Stargirl

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Livsnjutare (n.) – Origin: Swedish – Definition: One who loves life deeply and lives it to the extreme.

You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough. – Joe Lewis

I have visited this theme previously but here is a new word and so here we go again.  I will admit that I have done some pretty daring things in my life.  Some call them idiotic things and for sure, sometimes I feel that I might have bit off more than I could chew.  Some say I am lucky to be alive to even talk about living life to the extreme.

Don’t you ever get the feeling that all your life is going by and you’re not taking advantage of it? Do you realize you’ve lived nearly half the time you have to live already? ― Ernest Hemingway

The advantage of living my life to the fullest and to the extreme is that I do not have a bucket list.  I have no regrets.  I have carpe diem’d every part of my life.  I do not think I will be sitting at the end of my life wondering why I didn’t do or try the things I had always dreamed of or wanted to do.

It is not the years in your life but the life in your years that counts. – Adlai Stevenson

In exchange for this daring life.  I am still alive.  I am still trying new adventures and activities. Admittedly at a slightly slower pace and slightly less extreme – (falling hurts more now than it used to)!!

When I stand before God at the end of my life, I would hope that I would not have a single bit of talent left, and could say, I used everything you gave me. – Erma Bombeck

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Lollygaggin or just Dilly-dallying – my life

Lollygag. The origin of this word is unknown, but it first surfaced around 1868. The definition of “lollygag” is someone who is messing around or wasting time. It also refers to someone who is doing something that isn’t serious or useful.

Dilly-Dally.  The base word “dally” came in from Old French hundreds of years ago and meant to chat idly. Over time “dally” picked up other meanings such as to toy with things or spend time idly. By the 19th century we get “dilly dally.”

What is the difference between lollygagging and dilly dallying?

One of the biggest reasons I love to work with children is they are renowned dilly dallying lollygaggers.

 “Even though you’re growing up, you should never stop having fun.”  ~~ Nina Dobrev

“Enjoy life. Have fun. Be kind. Have worth. Have friends. Be honest. Laugh. Die with dignity. Make the most of it. It’s all we’ve got.”  ~~Ricky Gervais

Many folks feel that to be a skylarking, dilly-dallier, of a lollygagging variety means that you have no use or value.  I completely disagree with this.  I have discovered the most profound answers to many of life’s toughest questions by randomizing the manner of which I get through each day.  On top of that, I am more productive and get quite a bit more done than many of my diligent and incredibly focused colleagues.

“Life is too short to not have fun; we are only here for a short time compared to the sun and the moon and all that.”  ~~Coolio

I also do not associate dilly dallying or lollygagging with procrastination.  I realize that this a common definition or interpretation of the word.  I am NOT a procrastinator.  I just interject confident fun into my work day.  It frees the mind, allows you to breathe and re-evaluate where you are in relationship to where you should be.  It helps you assess if changes need to be made to the process or even the end goal.  In my opinion, sometimes people are so focused on what they think the main goal is that they actually lose site of process. Or the fact that not everyone gets to the ultimate design of it all in the same way. Sometimes, being strictly tied in and focused only on your own end game, you lose site of the fact that the goal post has been moved and your team actually left the field.

“When you have confidence, you can have a lot of fun. And when you have fun, you can do amazing things.”  ~~Joe Namath

I once received an evaluation that I was not actually respected by many of my colleagues because I never seemed to take anything seriously.  Another comment I received by a well-intended mentor was that I completed things too quickly.  Every time I am confronted with this type of feedback, I ask the person, “Was it done incorrectly?”  or “Did i do something wrong?”  The answers is always, “No, of course not.”  All in all, these comments and judgement calls baffle me. If I do things quickly, correctly, and in a timely manner, while a the same time having fun through dallying and dillying and socializing and play.. WHAT IS THE PROBLEM??????  I think sometimes people make life way too difficult.  Life is not that hard. It’s not what happens but how you handle what happens.

“Life is easy. Just stay un-dead.”  ~~Fakeer Ishavardas

I believe that you need to input fun in your work, take mental breaks, dilly dally, lollygag around, listen to the music, dance to the tunes in your head and enjoy the process.  In the end, that is what you are going to remember.  The work you did is only as important as the next job that comes along, the next crisis, the next pandemic or war.  I could be sad, frustrated, or angry because I am not ever taken very seriously.  The truth is, I am smarter than I act, prettier than I feel, harder than I want to be, and I have been told that I am a diamond in the rough and that God is not finished with me.  I am Sam.  Sam I am. That’s basically all I am… well, that and a bag of chips.

“Today you are You, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is Youer than You.”  ~~Dr. Seuss

“I am going to keep having fun every day I have left, because there is no other way of life. You just have to decide whether you are a Tigger or an Eeyore.”  ~~Randy Pausch.

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Comeuppance. This is definitely a word you probably heard your grandparents use at some point and it is used in many films set in the 1920s to the 1950s or 60s. This is a fun word and it should be used more than it is. It means that someone will get what they deserve or will “get their just deserts.”

In other words . . . . Karma’s a bitch.

I believe this.  With all of my heart, I believe this.  In my own world, this has been true. I feel like I have always been the recipient of Karma.  When I do bad, I get bad.  When I do good, I get good. I do not think this is an accident. I think it is an intentional payment for my actions.

My own opinion is that if I keep juggling, then all the balls will stay in the air and my comeuppance will never come down, however richly deserved. — Mark Lawrence

It is true that on my best days I am often a hot mess.  Or at least appear to others that I am a hot mess.  My communication style is frustrating to many, both up and down the hierarchical system in which I work.  I often annoy and frustrate the people around me.  I’ve even been anonymously told that I am not respected by many of my peers.  I move too quickly for most people to actually understand what I am doing.  My mind is chaotic so my actions sometimes appear chaotic.  I am a crack up.. or cracked up.


Even though I sometimes get my feelings hurt, I don’t look at these criticisms as completely negative attributes. My chaotic nature helps me to find great solutions.  I get things done.  I never leave things incomplete.  I do things correctly and I usually end up achieving more success than anyone ever expected.  I shoot for mediocrity and I achieve it every single time. I am sooo ok with this.

There are issues with this attitude and lifestyle for sure.  Well, where to start with the negative comeuppances that have come my way.  I am often misunderstood. Many of my bosses indicate that they never knew how hard their jobs were until I arrived.  Many colleagues, friends, and family are frustrated with my confusing communicatory delivery system.  My sense of humor can be annoying.  I have not risen as high as many of my colleagues.

I am often perceived as not caring.  Maybe it’s the fact that I often use phrases like “No, me importa!” or “मलाई मतलब छैन” or “je m’en fous” or 난 상관없어” (I don’t care)!!!

The truth is, I care deeply.  Very deeply. Just not about most of the things others care about.

The positive comeuppances for me have been that my work-life balance is awesome.  My aim for mediocrity has had me soaring through the tree limbs hardly ever impaling myself in the branches.  Though I fall often, I don’t fall far.  My crashes barely bruise me these days.  Every single downward trajectory has me finding ways to get back up.

“I long for the simplicity of theatre. I want lessons learned, comeuppances delivered, people sorted out, all before your bladder gets distractingly full. That’s what I want. What I know is what we all know, whether we’ll admit it or not: every attempt to impose the roundness of a well-made play on reality produces a disaster. Life just isn’t so, nor will it be made so.”
John M. Ford

As a matter of fact, I always get back up and live to quietly complain in my head about the naysayers and jerks.  I often believe, but am more-often proved wrong, that they too will receive every bit of comeuppance they deserve!

In the end, none of that matters, because the truth is … I am currently living in my just desserts …. and they taste just fine.   


“If you’re really a mean person you’re going to come back as a fly and eat poop.”- Kurt Cobain

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