Day 5 – If you want to be, beeeee

“It’s never overreacting to ask for what you want and need.”
― Amy Poehler

If you want to be a writer, write. If you want to be a singer, sing. If you want to be happy, laugh.  If you want to be a detective, investigate.  If you want to be a world traveler, move.

“We all spend so much time not saying what we want, because we know we can’t have it. And because it sounds ungracious, or ungrateful, or disloyal, or childish, or banal. Or because we’re so desperate to pretend that things are OK, really, that confessing to ourselves they’re not looks like a bad move. Go on, say what you want. … Whatever it is, say it to yourself. The truth will set you free. Either that or it’ll get you a punch in the nose. Surviving in whatever life you’re living means lying, and lying corrodes the soul, so take a break from the lies for just one minute.”
― Nick Hornby

Realistically, everyone wants to be something.  Sometimes it is hard to know what you want but you will never know what you want if you are not moving towards something.  Anything.  I am always surprised at how many people are able to express what they want but unable or unwilling to do the work to get there.  My theory and action plan for getting to the things I want is to move.  I don’t always get what I thought I wanted, but I always get what I ended up needing.   

“Well, if you can’t have what you want, you could try to want what you have.”
― Gillian Shields

What i have finally discovered… What I really want… Is what everyone eventually really wants.  Laughter, love, and life.  What else is there?

“If you don’t know what you want, you’ll never find it.
If you don’t know what you deserve, you’ll always settle for less.
You will wander aimlessly, uncomfortably numb in your comfort zone, wondering how life has ended up here.
Life starts now, live, love, laugh and let your light shine!”
― Rob Liano

Other posts I really like:  daly; musings; fluffy; laughter; mueller; finger; 59; sungmo; sbd; nansfarm; bumpkin; teeth; ellie; gunrose; balloons; whilst; weathered; toy; wires; dreams; piggy; pizzazz; herbs; sunflower; wind

Happy On a Hash

On On.. With such a short time left in Nepal, I am really trying to get out and soak up more culture.  Ailsa’s theme laughter is a great way for me to get back into posting.  I hope you enjoy.

Other posts I liked:

I am a Pirate.. a mighty, mighty Pirate

Who am I?  Why am I the way I am?  What am I doing with my life?  Where am I going to be  in the not so distant future?  In the very distant future?  How did I get here and where will I be going?  All questions that can probably be answered in just one picture –


Yes, you are right.. I am a Pirate.. a mighty, mighty Pirate.

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They were the best of times, they were the worst of times.. Ahhh high school.


There will be people who state that high school was a low point in their lives or that it didn’t matter at all and made no difference to them in regards to how they turned out as an adult.   Maybe they hated it or thought it was a complete waste of time. However, it cannot be denied that by having gone through it, high school exposes a person, to a certain level, on how to become (or not become) an adult.  It’s a place where you must decide what is important and what is not; how you want to be treated or how you will never treat someone else.  High school, if done right, is a place where you might meet some of your longest standing and best friends in life.

I do understand that high school today is a much different beast than it was when I attended (1981-1985).  We did not have to worry about someone coming in and shooting up the school.  We had authentic learning experiences that were not focused on taking tests.  We didn’t have a lot of parents suing schools, so most of the science experiments and field trips were more spontaneous and exciting than some of what I have seen in schools today.  We were also not monitored as much as kids are today (rightfully so) because we knew that our neighbors would rat us out if we got too out of hand.  We were also given “breaks” by some of those same neighbors resulting in a different kind of learning lesson. There was accountability in the school as well as out of it, which in my opinion, led to a greater amount of freedom because we all knew that we were being looked after.  There is a certain amount of safety connected to discipline and accountability which is not as prevalent today as it was when I was growing up.

Another thing that we had in the 80’s were AMAZING teachers.  Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying at all that teachers today are not amazing, or at least not trying to be amazing.  The problem is teachers have so many more constrictions and confinements today than my teachers had.  The issues might be the same, but the tools and freedoms to solve the problems are not as available and often times not considered as acceptable.

Teaching to a state/federal/national test limits how much spontaneity a teacher can use in the classroom.  When I taught in California, our administration stated basically, “As I walk by one 1st grade classroom I should be able to hear the beginning of a sentence and as pass the next first grade classroom, I should hear the end of that same sentence.”  This of course is ridiculous, but that is just one example of how tightly planned a teacher’s day sometimes is.

The 80’s were an amazing time of transition as well.  A time of loosening up of some of the more stringent ideas of what should be taught in school so there was a little more play in the school.  I remember our teachers being pretty hip.  It was the beginning of an era of group motivational speaking.  We had so many convocations about self-esteem and enjoying life.  We had a leadership weekend once a year where our entire class could sign up and go to a campsite and sing songs, compete in team building activities and just learn how to bond and enjoy each other while receiving messages about how to be a better person in general.

I think these things that happened to me in my high school years made me the person I am today.  I do realize this is not the case for everyone in high school and that I was fortunate to have gone to the school I went to and had the friends I did and even fortunate to have survived it all unscathed.  I’m still friends with many of the friends I made in high school and actively try to find the ones I lost contact with because they are that important to me.

I had several favorite teachers and coaches/counselors/mentors in high school.  I remember one teacher randomly stopping me in the hallway when I was going through a very low point in my life and telling me how amazing I was and how I was going to be an inspirational and remarkable woman one day.  I don’t even know how he knew I was going through some tough times but he did.  At that particular moment in time I didn’t believe him and I didn’t think it would actually happen at all. Guess what?  It did.  Sure, I’m no more amazing and remarkable than the next woman, but when I feel down or beaten those very words start echoing in my head and push me on.  This man was not an anomaly.  This was a message that many of us got from many of our teachers.

Another teacher/coach/mentor/counselor always wore purple and gold clothing to school.



I saw him several years after graduation when I was substitute teaching in a different school and strangely, he wasn’t wearing purple.  In retrospect, purple and gold were probably not his favorite colors. These colors were obviously our school colors but to him they were a little more than that.  They were a symbol to him. A sense of pride was demonstrated in this man for being who and what he was while he was what he was. His only objective in life seemed to be wanting to instill that same sense of pride in each of us.  His convocations were always full of life and humor and hoping that we would all be able to acknowledge at some point who and what we were while we were what we were.

More than that though, our teachers seemed to want to help us understand that what we were right now was only temporary.  What we were going through at any given moment was only what was happening at that moment and it was all a preparation for everything that was to come.

One of my favorite convocations we were shown (I think 4 years in a row) a video entitled “Greatest Days of your life (so far).  This film has also echoed in my head when I’ve felt down and out and even when I have been as up as I could be.  I’ve been able to apply it to nearly every situation and time period in my life.  It’s also why I am who I am today and I just wanted to share it and hope you all enjoy it as well.  Thanks for stopping by.

P.S. For some reason I could not actually attach this youtube video.  When I did try, some Mindy Mcready videos popped up in their place.  At any rate, take some time to click on the links.. they really are good, if not a little dated.  Again, thanks for stopping by.

This award winning film, “Greatest Days of Your Life,,,so far” written and performed by Mark Scharenbroich (Mark Shake and Bake) in 1981 has been seen by more than 10 million students
Mark Scharenbroich’s The Greatest Days of Your Life…(so far) 1981 film

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31 days of randomness – Personal Inspiration day 19 – Flash Back

In continuation of my 31 days of randomness – Day 19 will be a focus on stepping back and remembering or focusing on a time from the past.

There is a saying:

‘Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it’–                      –George Santayana

I agree with this saying but it in no ways indicates this will be a heavy post about historical mistakes made or interventions or recovery.  I only started with that quote to mislead and well, I really like that quote. No this inspirational day is about remembering the best and forgetting the rest.

I know that we are all supposed to be living in the present and embracing it as well as looking toward the future.. BUT.. sometimes there are just things from the past that were too good to ignore.   Now I wasn’t old enough to really have had a physical appreciation of the 70’s (and yes I know they weren’t all good.. that’s why my theme focus is on remembering only the best) but I love the music and the style from that generation.

If you say you don’t I won’t believe you.  How could you not?  Really if it wasn’t so great why does it keep coming back?

It’s not just the clothes and the hair and the music that I love, it might really be everything.  Think of the emotions and the passion that emanated from that generation.

The music was what all future music bounced off of.  So the 70’s brought us music, style, passion, dreams, weird predictions of the future.  You can love it or you can hate it but I’m inspired to step back for a day and just enjoy it.

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There was two shows at the 1969 Woodstock Music Festival.
One was on stage.  One was the people off stage

Of course there are a million more memories but I’ll stop for now.  I wonder if tomorrow I might flash back to the 80s?

This all started from a random site I found called  Apparently there is a group of people who have committed to posting a topical theme a day for 31 days.  31 Dayers 2012


31 days of randomness personal inspiration day 17 – Where is the love?

In continuation of my 31 days of randomness – Day 17 – Giving and promoting love and happiness.

So much of our lives are spent self-promoting.  It’s a necessary part of our lives.. if we don’t pat ourselves on the back who will?  In most of the jobs I have had I have had to write my own employment reviews and you learn how to give yourself credit where credit is due.  Sometimes so much to the effect of not acknowledging or appreciating others.  What is our purpose?  What are we supposed to be doing?

What is this thing called life?  How do we do this?  Where do we start?  What do we do? Need instructions? Here are some basics to go along with my 3 step recipe – 1. Breathe in.  2.  Breathe out.  3.  Repeat steps one and two.

I would only add one last imperative.. strive to make others happy.. show some peeps some love..

Today I am inspired to try to show the love to random people throughout my day.  On the same note – I plan to show some “love” to some recent bloggers by introducing a few recent posts I enjoyed.  Just 3 for today here.  I hope you enjoy them as much as I did.

The first blog I ran into recently that i really enjoyed was based on my love of music and my appreciation for some of the same artists.  All that I am all that I ever was posted Day #5: Some thoughts on mainstream music… and talked about some of her favorite mainstream artists.  All of which are some of my favorite as well.  It’s a very well written piece with good examples of the music video’s that represent her choices (Pink, Adele, Kelly Clarkson).  You should take a peek at it.  Even if just to listen to the music.

My 2nd choice for the day is entitled “Dare Ya!” by Single Again. It’s an inspirational post with photos and that embrace some poignant words about continuing to fly and embracing life.  To inspire you to take a look – here’s how she starts out:

Have you been through a phase where you were consciously trying not to attach too much importance to anything that was happening to you, especially if what was happening was good? It’s so annoyingly ridiculous, isn’t it?


It’s like a defense mechanism, your rational self is trying to protect your emotional self from another disappointment. When you think you’ve hit rock bottom, you’re shocked to find yourself scraping even lower the next day…being ‘safe’ seems like the better choice. But what’s the point of having wings and never flying again. I don’t want my wings to wither away…

The 3rd blog I happened on by chance titled “All it takes is a smile” by Modern Philosophies.  I really connected with this piece because it’s how I’ve lived much of my life ATA (after teen-age angst).  I have smiled so much and so often that most of the time I don’t even know I’m doing it until someone comes up to me and asks what I’m up to. She ends her post with the following statement:

Happiness doesn’t need to be difficult, it shouldn’t be stressful, and it should always be thoughtless. Makes someones day better with a little smile and watch that one simple action start a train reaction.

It’s amazing how simple such a little act can be.. a simple curving of the lips in an upward direction and eye contact with that person.  I dare you to try it as well.

Three of hundreds of great blogs to check out and be inspired by.  The following video was one I loved to use in my Uni class while teaching in Korea.  It was my challenge for my students to show where they thought the love was and how they could demonstrate it.. very amazing responses and changed attitudes.  Enjoy.

This all started from a random site I found called  Apparently there is a group of people who have committed to posting a topical theme a day for 31 days.  31 Dayers 2012