Reflections of myself in others


When someone smiles at me, I realize that I am probably smiling at them. One of my highest priorities in life is to see people smile back at me.

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Only when I am surrounded by my sisters and my daughters can I truly be myself. When I watch them, I am watching myself.  When I see them laugh, cry, be goofy, be angry, I am seeing a modified reflection of myself. I am a part of them and they are all every part of me.  Even when I am not with them, they are with me.

“She was beautiful, but not like those girls in the magazines. She was beautiful, for the way she thought. She was beautiful, for the sparkle in her eyes when she talked about something she loved. She was beautiful, for her ability to make other people smile, even if she was sad. No, she wasn’t beautiful for something as temporary as her looks. She was beautiful, deep down to her soul. She is beautiful.”
― F. Scott Fitzgerald

Fun with friends is when I am also most myself.  Smiling at others to have others smile back at me is what makes me feel most myself.

“This life is for loving, sharing, learning, smiling, caring, forgiving, laughing, hugging, helping, dancing, wondering, healing, and even more loving. I choose to live life this way. I want to live my life in such a way that when I get out of bed in the morning, the devil says, ‘aw shit, he’s up!”

― Steve MaraboliUnapologetically You: Reflections on Life and the Human Experience

“Though we travel the world over to find the beautiful, we must carry it with us or we find it not.”
― Ralph Waldo Emerson

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The Sequence of Events that Led to the Smile…


Everytime you smile at someone, it is an action of love, a gift to that person, a beautiful thing.”
― Mother Teresa

The smile.. oh the smile.  It is what draws me to a person and it’s one of the criteria’s from which I judge who will be my lasting friend.  I know it’s wrong to base an entire life-time friendship on how a person smiles, but I do.  If you smile frequently or can make me smile frequently.. rest assured we will be fast friends and will wage life’s storms together for many years.

As I’ve mentioned in many past blogs, I love to take pictures.  One of the reasons I love to take pictures is that they capture very precious memories for me and I can go back and remember that one moment in time.  As I said in Photographs and Memories “I can’t explain exactly what it is about these specific photos that cause me to pause or smile, I just know that they do.” and for me that is what’s it’s all about.

1972 or 1973 Family foto

Now having said this, I must admit that the 2nd reason I am obsessed with photos of people smiling is that I have spent my life not knowing what to do when I am in front of a camera. I usually look somewhat confused and often-times a bit crazed.  Can you guess which one is me?

Wait Let me help.

Crazed gleam in eyes – all teeth showing

I just can’t seem to get that photo perfect smile down.  My sister has been trying to teach me “the look” which apparently is a perfect smile that draws people in, makes them want to get to know you and sometimes even makes them wonder what you’ve been up to.  I’ve definitely developed a look, but it’s scary.  Even to me.

I’m just glad friends don’t choose me for my ability to take a good smile picture.

My inability to capture a normal smiley photo has been the bane of my existence.  It is usually the reason I am behind the camera.

There are tons of instructional websites that “teach” you how to take the perfect foto.  None of them have worked for me. I’m not the only one obsessed with how to take a great photo or how to look great in a photo.  I know this as there are a million sites out there that try to tell you how to do it.

However, when I later look back on my favorite pictures, they all typically include people smiling or laughing or pretending to smile.  I love candid shots and sometimes those are the pictures that don’t have the perfect smile they were just perfect moments in time that made me happy.  When I’m having a bad day I go back and preview video’s or photos of my favorite people laughing and having a good day and there it is.. bad day gone.  If you are having a bad day try it.  It’s amazing how often this works.  I would encourage everyone to start a video/photo journal of happy times.. it’s a great hobby and a great pick me up.

Research has proven that forcing a smile or a laugh when you are feeling down or a “fake it to make it” attitude can really permanently change your attitude.  Mahatma Gandhi once said, “Be the change you want to see in the world.   Just looking at a smiling face can make a person smile even if they are not aware of it.  There are serious health consequences behind smiles that should not be underestimated.  The reasons to smile are innumerable.  Even if no one else is around to reap the benefits.. it just feels good.

Smiling is an amazing opportunity to make yourself stand out as well as a way to improve your health, lower stress levels, and bottom line, it just makes you more attractive. Remember the one who laughs lasts.. start the day with a smile.

Whether it is my own granddaughter or random babies. Laughing babies always make me smile. Check these out.  If they don’t improve your mood and make you smile or even laugh out loud i won’t believe you.  Video of my granddaughter- Baby Jemma laughing.  Laughing baby in highchair.  Laughing baby ripping paper.  Laughing quadruplet babies. 

They are not always the prettiest and some aren’t even true smiles but these are some of the people and events that make me smile.  Even my least favorite photos of myself can bring a smile to my face now.  So there it is.  I hope you enjoy.

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More posts to make you smile – How to include humor in your life.  Animals.  Smiling Men.