October has been a month dedicated strictly to my dad. It is the month of his birth as well the month of his death. Every day on Facebook I have posted a picture of and a story relating to my dad that I think coincides to the story. As stated in my last post, he was an amazing man and the most amazing man I have encountered in my life.
Anyone can be a father, but it takes someone special to be a dad, and that’s why I call you dad, because you are so special to me. You taught me the game and you taught me how to play it right. ~~~Wade Boggs
October 1 – Dad, Mom, and the grandmas –
It doesn’t matter who my father was; it matters who I remember he was. ~~~Anne Sexton
October 2 & 3 – Dad and me about 2010 -and the darn family!!
My father didn’t tell me how to live; he lived, and let me watch him do it. ~~~Clarence Budington Kelland
Oct 4 – Dad and some sisters at L&E.. I know it’s the Sportsman cafe but will always belong to L & E to my heart.
My father was my teacher. But most importantly he was a great dad. ~~~Beau Bridges
October 5 – Dad’s younger days. Reminding me and teaching me… my worth .. my value.. day by day
My father said there were two kinds of people in the world: givers and takers. The takers may eat better, but the givers sleep better. ~~~Marlo Thomas
October 6 – One of my very favorite photos. Mom and dad looking so young, Patricia and Veronica not looking any different these days, and me looking slightly crazed. This photo immortalized into a deck of cards after dad’s passing by Dori (Thank you so much)! Nothing but hearts and smiles in my heart right now and every time I look at this.
My father always used to say that when you die, if you’ve got five real friends, then you’ve had a great life. ~~~Lee Iacocca
October 7 – An oldie but a goodie. Mom and dad. Both gave me humor. Both gave me inspiration and ability. Both game me drive and determination. But only one.. only one.. gave me 100% unconditional love. Every time.. all the time…
A father’s tears and fears are unseen, his love is unexpressed, but his care and protection remain as a pillar of strength throughout our lives. ~~~Ama H. Vanniarachchy
October 8 – This one is for missing yesterday.. so weird to think that I am older now than my mom or dad was in this picture.. an obvious thing but so weird how you can outlive a memory that feels like it was only yesterday.
Dad is and always will be my living, breathing superhero. ~~~ Bindi Irwin
October 9 –
October 10 –
It was my father who taught me to value myself. ~~~ Dawn French
October 11 –
My Father had a profound influence on me. He was a lunatic. ~~~Spike MilliganOctober 12-This is just one more example of why dad was special. Never one to skip a laugh. Never one to not join in with our own jokes. Miss your humor dad.My father was not a failure. After all, he was the father of a president of the United States. ~~~Harry S Truman
My father told me ‘Name your price in the beginning. If it ever gets more expensive than the price you name, get out of there.’ ~~~Dave Chappelle
October 14 –
Everything my mother and father did was designed to put me where I am. ~~~Henry Louis Gates
Man you gotta love the 80s. This is basically proof that I wasn’t just a daddy’s girl.. heck I was a daddy’s teen.. followed by a daddy’s woman .. eventually I was a daddy’s Grammy Sami…
Being a daddy’s girl is like having permanent armor for the rest of your life.” ~~~Marinela Reka
Sometimes you forget that your parents also have parents… have lost parents.. as much as I was a daddy’s girl.. dad was a momma’s boy. Not in today’s interpretation of the word.. but he was just a kid who, through his life, LOVED his momma. My grandma. He also frequently tried to emulate his daddy. But his mom.. that’s where his heart was.
A father needs to be the standard against which she will judge all men. ~~~Gregory E.
Fathers and daughters have a special bond. She is always daddy’s little girl. ~~~Richard L. Ratliff
This is by far my favorite picture of dad. My daughters and dad just cutting a rug. When my sisters and I grew up, I think mom and dad had had enough of the kids, any kids, in their house. So to be honest, we never spent much time with them. They weren’t the huggy, lovey, kissy grandparents. They didn’t beg for more time with the kids. It always made me a little bit sad. But I knew that they loved each other. I just don’t think they had enough time together. Love is such an easy thing to forget. Or just miss.
This picture is always a reminder to me that, if given the chance, and you let your guard down, there is always a chance for smiles and laughter. I wish my daughters could have spent more good times with dad. Times like this. They loved him and he loved them. I am not sure that any of them REALLY knew it. It’s just another reminder of how short time is. Let people know that you REALLY love them.
An hour with your grandchildren can make you feel young again. Anything longer than that, and you start to age quickly. — Gene Perret
A good father will leave his imprint on his daughter for the rest of her life. ~~~ Dr. James Dobson
This is likely one of my most common memories of dad. It’s just dad coming home. Happened all the time. It was a super common event. So why take a picture? Well, dad was a trucker. He was gone a lot. This could have been a normal day or a special event. But it doesn’t matter. Pretty much every time he came home it was special. I’d love to see him walk in a door again. Any door.
A father’s job is not to teach his daughter how to be a lady. It’s to teach her how a lady should be treated. ~~~ Unknown
Dad’s birthday is tomorrow. As I was scrolling through my photos I came across the mile 13 photo. This set photo is huge. It started as a trip dad wanted to take to visit mom’s resting place in Montana. Was supposed to be dad, me, and my sisters but turned into.. a 15 passenger van with pretty much the whole family… down to the grandkids! At first I think dad was annoyed.. but it’s one of the things he talked about during one of our last conversations. One of the most chaotic but best memories he had. He had planned this to be his last resting place. You had to drive through some beautiful country to get there… find mile marker 13, climb through someone’s fence, climb s bill…dad, my sis, and Mike drove there to scout it out.. apparently after som 60 years.. it was gone. It was a new development.. as dad put it to me.. ”Well, I was very disappointed. Yet surprised it had been left for so long. I can still feel the drop in my stomach. But what do ya do?” That led to us looking over the pictures of the trip.. when he got in the van to go visit mom.. his only thought had been…”WTF have I just got myself into!” I asked him how many times in his life had that thought popped into his head raising us. He looked at me and without a blink said, “Every FKN day!” Then laughed.. and said, “But like that trip, at the end of it, I have had more happy times than frustrated times and I don’t regret a thing.”
October 22 – Happy Birthday Dad.
I love my daddy. My daddy’s everything. I hope I can find a man that will treat me as good as my dad.” ~~~Lady Gaga
My dear father; my dear friend; the best and wisest man I ever knew, who taught me many lessons and showed me many things as we went together along the country by-ways. ~~~ Sarah Orne Jewett
Daddy, thanks for being my hero, chauffeur, financial support, listener, life mentor, friend, guardian and simply being there every time I need a hug. ~~~Agatha Stephanie Lin
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A beautiful tribute!
Thanks so much.. I sure do miss him!
You are very welcome! I appreciate what you are going through and what you wrote resonated strongly with me.
Thanks. I have had a lot of friends who have said the same thing. A lot of loss for a lot of folks over the past few years!
All I can say is that it does – eventually – get better. It never goes away but one day you will realise that you were not consciously aware of thinking about him and being sad! Stay well!
He is in a better place. Cancer sucked. My very good friend died a year before which was almost harder.. on one level as she was closer to my age. So strange, not afraid to die myself.. eventually we all do.. but it’s sad and strange and heartbreaking when someone else dies.